#29 Tips on Self talk to Live Your best Life

The way you choose to think and speak about yourself is a choice! You may have spent your whole life negatively talking about yourself, but that doesn’t mean you have to continue that path.” – Miya Yamanouchi.


In my previous blog I gave you a couple of tips to self-love and why you should love yourself.

Here are some further thoughts to help you to start living and appreciating yourself more.




In my previous blog, I gave you some tips on self-love and why you should love yourself. Here are some further thoughts to help you to start living and appreciating yourself.


It would help if you learned what your values are because it reflects upon your behaviour. To do this, dig deep into your feelings and ask- “What am I thinking that’s causing self-sabotage or pain to myself?” Allow the answer to come from deep inside your soul. Dig deep into your intuition and true feelings. Learn about your false beliefs about yourself. Learning about yourself can be a terrifying project but also a deep and compassionate process of exploration.


Once you understand what you’re thinking and feeling, think about the fears and false beliefs that lead you to sabotage or pain. Then, go through the steps until you discover the loving actions that bring you peace, joy, and a deep sense of inner worth.


Over time, you will discover that loving yourself improves everything in your life—your professional life, relationships, health and wellbeing, ability to manifest your dreams, and self-esteem.

The key to loving and connecting with others and creating loving relationships is to connect with yourself first. Loving yourself is the key to creating a passionate, fulfilled, and joyful life - it is true!

What is self-talk?

Self-talk is your internal dialogue, and it’s the thoughts that whirl around your mind about yourself. Your subconscious mind influences it, and it reveals your thoughts, beliefs, questions, and ideas, decisions and then turns into actions.


Self-talk can be both negative and positive. It can be encouraging, and it can be distressing. Much of your self-talk depends on your experience and perhaps even your personality. For example, if you’re an optimist, your self-talk may be more optimistic. However, if you tend to be a pessimist, your self-talk will be negative in tone.

You will be doing yourself a favour when you learn to be a positive thinker because it is a stress management tool. Indeed, having a more positive outlook on life will provide you with heaps of health benefits. For example, one study shows that optimists have a better quality of life.

A better quality of life is a great motivation to bite the bullet and learn what you are saying to yourself. What are others saying, and you are buying into it? What are the negative thoughts and actions you are using against yourself?


All of us have the unconscious habit of keeping a running dialogue with ourselves throughout the day. Once you are fully aware that you do this, you have the opportunity to change the tune by filling your day with positive self-talk.


Instead of continuing a pattern of negative self-talk, be committed to breaking the cycle, research and learn how to change your outlook on life with positive thoughts that will increase your self-esteem.


Self-exploration like this will take time, be patient with yourself and keep on keeping on- don’t give up. In time, maybe sooner than you think, you will detect that inner dialogue, so then you can correct and control it.

When your self-esteem is healthy, loving yourself will come naturally.


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